Pandemic and Love
What is L.O.V.E? In times of the pandemic, an area touched is relationships and romance. Study shows that more and more single people are seeking their potential partners and are being picky at that. Not to forget the couples, partners and spouses, these two years of being in locked down, has either strengthened or weakened relationships and been a testing time for all. In the Pandemic series Aura shares short inspire tales of ordinary people living their extraordinary lives during the pandemic, focusing on the impact it has had on relationships and romance.
Relationships and Romance in the Covid Times:
Before the pandemic, life was hectic, all the business trips kept me away from family life. My professional life took over my personal life, I thrived on my next victory in winning clients for the company I work for. I would be away for 2 weeks, the longest I stayed away was for a month. And when I came home my wife, and I would ignite our romance, love, and sex life, everything seemed to be perfect in my life.
However, just before the lockdown, things began to change, my wife, also a professional, had more responsibilities as she was also looking after our two children and house chores. I tried to help as much as I could, when I was home from my business trips, but it did not seem enough and we began to argue a lot more, our love life suffered in the process. Then the lockdown happened, and we both worked from home, as well as our work, we were homeschooling our children. We began to share our responsibilities, taking turns in completing the household chores and working on personal projects. We rekindled our love life, and this pandemic has made me value my wife and children and the important relationships in my life.
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I have been married to my husband (37) for five years, and we took care of each other’s needs as best as we could. We also had our individual lives that we led, some “ME” time with a few of my very close friends and he had his friends that he frequently went out with. And in the lockdown our social lives suffered, and we spent more time with each other and got to know each other even better. I guess we were making the most of the situation.
Then one day, I received a message on Facebook from a random stranger, telling me that my husband had been paying money to his girlfriend in return for sexual favours. And if I didn’t believe it then I should check his bank account for the payments he made to the woman. I had no idea on how to bring up this conversation and decided to take a direct approach. I confronted him, showing him the message, and asked him to explain himself. It turned out that the woman was his ex-girlfriend, and she used his PayPal account for her small business, and he made bank transfers to her in return. The logic thing was to ask him to show me his bank account and match the payments to his PayPal account, which he did, and everything matched.
But there was still this niggling feeling and I asked to see his phone and the messages between the two, and then is when he admitted that he was flirting with her, but he had never had sex with her in the time we have been together. How does one go past this? It broke my trust in him and now every time he goes out, I keep wondering who is he with? And where is he. We tried to work things out, but I could not come to terms with the trust part of our relationship. I moved out of our home and went to live with my parents until I worked through this issue. 6 months on from the episode, my husband has worked on winning me back and has moved above and beyond to win my trust, I decided to give him a second chance with the condition that his ex needs to get her own PayPal account and stop using his and that he needs to cut ties with her completely.
I met my partner during the pandemic. Like many of us, I was under the lockdown on my own and it was a good time to work on myself from a selflove point of view. I did a lot of soul searching and I would question about the purpose of my life. I then came across an online meditation group where we met over a zoom call and raise the vibration of the entire group. We met fortnightly for a 30-minute meditation and an hour of talking about spirituality session. And not to make it monotonous we created buddy groups of 4 and met online on the week when there were no sessions. I met Sara, in the buddy group and we hit it off. I gathered the courage and sent her a private message on our zoom call and asked for her phone number to keep in touch.
And we kept connected over WhatsApp and the more we interacted the more we found out that we had a lot in common and she lived relatively close to where I lived. I asked her out on a virtual date, and we cooked each other’s favourite meals and shared it over a zoom call. When we were allowed to meet others outdoors, we arranged to meet up in the park near us, I guess that was our first real date. After talking to each other for a few months we decided to move in together, since my flat was larger than hers, the logic thing to do was for her to move in with me. Its now a year on from when Sara first moved in, and we discover something new about each other every day.
Later Sara confessed that she had sent out a message to the Universe to meet like-minded people with whom she could have a deeper connection and if there was a prospective of a love interest then she would love that. She had also visualized her ideal partner and when she saw me the first time on the zoom call, she could not believe that I had appeared in her reality.
"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
We bring you more inspire tales from the 3 beautiful souls about love and relationships during the pandemic, ensure that you fall in love not because you are lonely, but because you are ready to fall in love.
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